Truman: [to the…

Truman: [to the unseen] Who are you?
The unseen: [on a speaker] I am the Creator – of a television show that gives hope and joy and inspiration to millions.
Truman: Then who am I?
The unseen: You’re the star.
Truman Burbank: Was nothing real?
The unseen: You were real. That’s what made you so good to watch…
Listen to me truman
there is no more truth out there than there is in the world i created for you
same lies , same deceit but in my world you have nothing to fear
and i know you better than you know your self,
you’re afraid thats why you can’t leave this world…its okay truman i can understand
i’ve been watching you your whole life , i was watching when you were born , i was
watching when you took your first step, watched you on your first day of school ,
the episode when you lost your first tooth ..YOU CAN’T LEAVE TRUMAN
YOU BELONG HERE..WITH ME..TALK TO ME… SAY SOMETHING ..your on television …YOUR LIVE TO THE WHOLE WORLD

Truman: [0pens the door to another world] In case I don’t see ya, good afternoon, good evening, and good night!

Regrets people make on their deathbed

Recently read an amazing article about a nurse who reveals some of the regrets people make on thier deathbed  and is shared below

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Manydeveloped illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way,you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what  others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

 

Nobody is perfect , i am Nobody

Perfect !!!!! Perfection !!! is such a great word to hear…

We see people trying to reach a stage of perfection in their life , we see people who envision perfection in their life and there is this another lot they are happy just they way they are..

We see so many people in this world,living turbulent lives trying to reach a state where they can calmly state proudly that YES!! MY LIFE IS PERFECT!! MY RELATIONSHIPS ARE PERFECT!! MY JOB IS PERFECT!! MY FAMILY IS PERFECT!! three very important components of life Relationships,Job and family which we cannot live without,around which our life revolves and one that cannot be avoided.

Question arises how do we reach this state of perfection in all the three components of life..Answer to it i believe is – you cannot , the dynamics of the world is built in such a way each of us is different than the other , we cannot please everybody and we cannot live somebody else’s life if its not worth living.

If i see the world from a 3rd person point of view and just analyze the life of a rich man and a poor you will see how the definition of the word perfection changes. I  have seen many poor people who live in a hut with limited food everyday and say they are happy with their lives and lead a perfect one as compared to their rich counterparts who have problems since they have plenty of money and i hear many rich people say otherwise.

The bottom line from this is ..it doesn’t matter .. Nobody can reach a state of perfection in their lives cause perfection is not  a constant state, it keeps changing as the world around you changes. What really matters is “YOU” . Where do you find joy in your life,where do you really feel that when that time comes in your death bed you can look up to your family and have tears of joy whispering to yourself that you led a great life and you would not want to change anything if given a chance to lead the same life again.What matters always is ..WHERE AND HOW YOU ARE GOING TO FIND JOY IN YOUR LIFE CAUSE LIFE IS LIKE A BOX OF CHRISTMAS CHOCOLATES YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU’RE GOING TO FIND INSIDE UNTILL YOU OPEN IT :)..

What dreams are made of….

Why change when we can remain..!

What would you do if you were not afraid?….A question everyone needs to think of

Change in a simple lay man term would be moving from one state to another though the definition seems simple but  the cherry lies in the transition phase between this change and a lot can be talked about.Of how we are susceptible to change ,how we adapt to change ,how we accept change in ones lives and more importantly how we fear change in our lives.

A book i read had a line which read as follows “if you do not change you will become extinct” and you wonder what would be the reason why we sometimes are in a state of oblivion and the reason lies with us and how we let fear get to us just before we sense a change in environment we live in.

Humans resist change and sometimes desist it as well and there are a couple of  very rational reasons why.Every thing depends on how we see change in our lives ,we position our self in an environment were we feel safe , comfortable and anticipate our situation in a form that we know when we wake up the next morning we exactly know where and what we would be doing.

This unfortunate human detriment is due to a fear we incorporate in our lives partly due to over analyzing things and not keeping it simple.we resist such change thinking it would lead to the worst hence the time spent in fearing change and analyzing change could have been spent in understanding the change we are undergoing.

One should face this fear of change ,understand and embrace change and always be on the look out to see if the environment we are in is getting too comfortable or is getting outdated and hence based on this one should adapt as quickly to change and not be surprised by it.

Fights of the century- I

Thrilla in Manila- Muhammad Ali and Joe Frazier

Muhammad Ali vs.  Joe Frazier
The Greatest		Smokin’ Joe

At 10:45 am, with a morning fight to coincide with international TV audiences, the bell for Round 1 rang. Ali had previously told his trainers that he was going to “put a whuppin'” on Joe Frazier, and he started the fight looking to do just that. Frazier was known for starting fights slowly, and Ali came out looking to use that to his advantage. Ali won the early rounds, largely remaining flat footed in place of his familiar dancing style and unleashed flurries of combinations on Frazier. Frazier was hurt a number of times by Ali’s onslaught, including staggering backwards several times in the first few rounds. However, to the amazement of Ali and many watching, Frazier continued to come forward, intent on punishing Ali’s body at close range despite having to take more and more of the withering punishment Ali was dishing out. According to Pacheco, Ali, who wanted to make it a short fight, grew so frustrated with Frazier’s refusal to go down or stop coming forward that he screamed “You stupid chump, you!” at Frazier in the fourth round.

By the fourth round Ali began to tire from all the energy he had expended in the searing heat and Frazier turned up his own offense and began punishing Ali to the body and the head with his trademark hooks. By the sixth round, Frazier had staggered him in turn and seemed to be gaining control of the bout. At the beginning of the seventh round, Ali reportedly whispered in Frazier’s ear, “Joe, they told me you was all washed up” Frazier growled back, “They told you wrong, pretty boy.”

Frazier seemed to dominate the middle rounds. Ali tried to fend Frazier off with occasional furious flurries of punches, spurts of manic activity, and even unsuccessfully tried to use the rope-a-dopetechnique that had defeated George Foreman nearly a year earlier, but it was all negated by Frazier’s relentless assault and power. Ali’s camp seemed to have overlooked the fact that Frazier’s smothering fighting style, which employed great numbers of left hooks, was in many ways, the perfect foil for Ali.

Between the terrific heat inside the stadium, Frazier’s assault and his own nonchalant training, it began to seem that Ali would wilt and fall to defeat.

Finally, in the tenth round, Frazier began to slow down and tire, and Ali slowly turned the tide. In the 11th round he used his speed to dance more, and to unload a series of fast combinations on Frazier, which severely bruised his face by the end of the round, swelling Frazier’s eyes to the point that nothing but a tiny slit remained open. Throughout round 12 Ali continued to turn the momentum, increasingly overwhelming Frazier, and using the fact that Frazier could no longer see Ali’s right hand coming to hit Frazier with one hard right after another. About a minute into Round 13, Ali landed another blistering combination on Frazier, sending the injured fighter’s mouth guard flying into the crowd. During the next two minutes Ali relentlessly kept after Frazier, the mouthguard not being replaced until the bell, hitting Frazier with hard combinations when Frazier wasn’t throwing punches, and when Frazier did throw, Ali used the openings left to inflict yet more damage. Frazier’s mouth was badly cut by the end of this round.

In round 14, Frazier was almost blind as he stepped in, and was met once more with punishing blows from Ali. With the punishment from Ali closing his right eye, Frazier was effectively fighting blind in the last rounds of the fight. By the 14th round Frazier was virtually helpless, and although Ali was desperately tired and hurting, he was able to summon the energy once again to give Frazier a fierce beating, and once again Frazier was staggered and nearly knocked down before the bell ended the round.

Seeing the results of round 14, Eddie Futch decided to stop the fight between rounds rather than risk a similar or worse fate for Frazier in the 15th. Frazier protested stopping the fight, shouting “I want him boss,” and trying to get Futch to change his mind. Futch replied, “It’s all over. No one will forget what you did here today”, and signaled to referee Carlos Padilla to end the bout. Unknown to Frazier’s corner, Ali had walked back to his own corner after the 14th and instructed Dundee to cut his gloves off. Ali later said that “Frazier quit just before I did. I didn’t think I could fight any more.”Ali’s biographer, Thomas Hauser, later revealed that a member of Ali’s corner had told him that Ali was telling them to “cut (my gloves) off, cut ’em off”, indicating Ali’s desire to not continue the fight. Ali’s surprise is quite visible on the video of the fight once Futch threw in the towel for Frazier. Ali would later claim that this was the closest to dying he had ever been,and also stated, “Joe Frazier, I’ll tell the world right now, brings out the best in me. I’m gonna tell ya, that’s one helluva man, and God bless him.” In a brief post-fight interview with one of the commentators, Ali announced, “He is the greatest fighter of all times, next to me……..

A Skepticism on Criticism

 

Once their was a race tournament between groups sets of ants the black ants and the red ants,On the day of the race  the two groups met up amid lot of fan fair and pomp.

The red ants sent their best competitor and so did the white ants ,but since the race was scheduled in the town the red ants lived ,their were more number of red ants compared to their neighbors.

The white ants had a small delegation of 5 and were clearly outnumbered to the hundreds of red ants seated in the arena.

Alas..!  the race began and off went the two competitors; the entire arena heard thunderous chant supporting the red ant racer, Slogans raised up and loud claps and shouts supporting the red ant racer, the red ant raced hard but the white ant who tho was physically less comparable to the red ant overtook the lead and won the race.

The stadium was shocked and silence spread across the crowd, mummers and whispers were heard as to how the white ant won the race even among such odds ,with no support and motivation from any quarters.

One wise red ant approached the white ant and asked the audacious white ant  the same as to how when faced with such impossible crowd was he able to win the race,to his shock he didn’t receive a reply, seeing the dilemma another white ant of the same delegation approached the red ant and explained

“Sorry sir, he is deaf by birth”….

-Danish Ahmed

Complication of desires- the mother of all problems

A economic lecturer once in a school had said human wants are unlimited ,so is the economics of human needs which we humans dwell in times of today,

This ‘want’  or what i like to call as desires that humans try to look for transcends all limitations and class hierarchy,and as once cleverly said the more you stuff your self with food in your mouth the more the stomach will expand.

A poor  man earning a daily wage bought a bicycle as a means of transportation from his work to home, everyday  on way to his work he passes by a house of a another man earning a reasonable wager who owns a bike ,he passes by every day looking eagerly at the vehicle ,earning his heart out  to own one and brings about a disappointment in his life looking at his meager bicycle he rides everyday.

The same with the man who owns a bike passes by a house of another rich man living in his neighborhood everyday and eager’s for the car the rich man travels by everyday to work.

This desire that transcends humans of all classes and generations leads to a complication which  initially they are unaware of,it brings a gap between what they want to actually achieve and what they have achieved in life this complicates their life and leads to numerous problems.

Some take loans ,some take credit and some go beyond all means to fulfill this desire clearly on the way not distinguishing what a ‘need’ is from a desire and tend to bring complication’s in their life by thier own hands and doings.

Desires they think when achieved would bring a sense of pleasure or happiness in thier life but clearly being blind to the fact that unreasonable desires can only lead to a momentary satisfaction.

Keep it simple and silly,keep it reasonable  and affordable but most of all keep it within one’s grasp its only then that one can bring a value system in thier life and bring a  sense of respect in things that they have achived.

-Danish ahmed

How to behave like a fool!

Mullah Nasrudin (the central figure in almost all tales of the Sufi tradition) had already become a sort of attraction at the main market in the town.
Whenever he went there to beg, people would show him a large coin and a small one: Nasrudin always chose the small one.

A generous man who was tired of seeing everyone laugh at Nasrudin, explained to him:

“When people offer you two coins, choose the larger one. Then you will have more money, and people will not think you a fool.”

“You are surely right”, replied Nasrudin.
“But if I always chose the larger coin, people would stop offering me money, in order to prove that I am a greater fool than they are.
“And then I would no longer receive enough for my food.
“There is nothing wrong with appearing to be a fool, if what you are doing is in fact intelligent.”